Insecurity. We’ve all heard of the word and most of us may even scoff this off thinking that they would never fall for such a trap. Well, I have bad news and good news for all.
Bad news is that people who think that they are never going to face the oppression of insecurity are somewhat insecure of insecurity itself. No one today can claim that they aren’t insecure about their flaws, because doing so would just be fooling yourself. Everybody has flaws and yes we’re insecure about them. But that doesn’t mean we leap into the shadow world of hate, ego and pride over others.
However, the good news is that you can always learn to get over your insecurities and manage to live without them bothering you. It is a long journey filled with adversities but in the end it’s all going to be worth it. All you need to do is start at some point, because you’ll never reach the end if you don’t take part in the race. So, why not start today? And here’s a tip: Laughing about your insecurities helps you get over them faster. Whenever someone calls you short or fat, take it as a compliment. Short people are fun-size and fat people are people with big, awesome personalities and to store them you need a little more space than average people. Have fun with who you are, love yourself. Because once you start loving you, people will automatically be drawn to you admiring your loving nature. If someone calls you weird, take it as a compliment, ’cause we call things weird which we normally don’t see, so be proud, you’re a unique unicorn in a world of horses. If people call you boring, it’s just that they’ve limited their perspective of interesting people, their loss, you will always find lots of people who will find you fascinating. Stick with those who reflect positivity and make you feel good about yourself.
But do keep in mind that overcoming the insecurity of our flaws doesn’t mean you turn into a poseur and put up a fake show for yourself, because that is just going to show people that how much deeper you’ve fallen into the abyss of being insecure. Trust yourself to be strong enough to grow through all this and bloom in positivity spreading your essence for other to take an example for themselves.
Nowadays, I’ve seen well enough girls whining and complaining, harming themselves trying to change themselves into something that they’re not and probably not even meant to be. And the ones to blame is the society we live in and the images put up by the fashion industry. The fashion industry has moved on from being just entertainment looks and trends to MUST looks and trends capturing the attention of girls and women all over who now would do anything to look like the models and dress up, even if it has atrociously negative effects, not just physically but mentally and emotionally also rendering them disable. The society also espouses these images because they mould the meanings of popularity and trendy around such ideologies. Basically, I believe that the society is the deadliest of all, because it tells us to do what we want to and be who we wanna be, but then, being cynical as it is, the society judges us on who we are or what we’ve become. So, the fear of being judged or outcasted by society leads even those who may be pretty headstrong to fall for the trap of insecurity and soon it change from necessity to obsession and we unknowingly and unwillingly hurt each other in the process.
Remember, we may put up masks to cover up our flaws but you will rot underneath if you keep them on too long. Preserve your natural beauty and accept yourself by loving yourself first. That is the best love story you will ever have.
Until next time…